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Domestic Violence: Domestic violence indicators:
Physical Abuse:• Throwing objects
• Pushing
• Shoving
• Punching
• Pinching
• Slapping
• Biting
• Kicking
• Choking
Psychological Abuse:• Insults
• Withholding affection
• Humiliating & criticizing
• Suspicions
• Jealousy
• Cursing
• Threatening with weapons
Economic Abuse:• Demanding accounting of money
• Withholding money
• Not sharing financial information
• Not allowing partner to work
Emotional Abuse:• Isolation
• Doubting parenting skills
• Treating partner like a servant
• Threatening suicide or abandonment
• Ignoring
• Withholding
• Blaming
Why victims do not disclose:People are afraid to report or talk about abuse because…• They don’t know where to get help
• They do not recognize that they are abused
• They are ashamed
• They are dependent on the abuser for care or financial support
• They were threatened to keep the secret
• They may blame themselves
• They have limited social contacts or supports outside of the home
• They fear their abusers may threaten to harm them or their children if they tell
Handling disclosure:• Find a private place to talk
• Do not express panic or shock
• Express your belief that the victim is telling the truth
• Give them reassurance for opening up
• Reassure them that the victim is NEVER at fault
• Determine their immediate need for safety
• Reassure them that you are there and will do your best to support/protect them
• If necessary, report to the proper authorities
How you can help?If a person is in imminent danger, contact the police or 911
Making a report:• Clergy are not mandated reporters for domestic violence
• If they are in danger, call 911
• Create a safety plan
• Have the person contact the Family Violence Project at 818-505-0900
• Give them the number to the Aleinu Family Helpline at 818-623-0300
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